Week 3 is about setting intentions. Read the entire post here.
This post really resonated with me. I used to be a more planned out, intentional person. These days, my life feels so haphazard, last minute, and thrown together. Part of it is probably due to having 3 lively little boys constantly underfoot; and all the moving around we’ve done over the last several years certainly hasn’t helped any. I remember a time in my life when I treated Sunday afternoons as my time to plan ahead for the rest of the week. I would go over my calendar (appointments, school assignments, church activities, etc.), discuss any logistical details with Rusty, plan my menu and make my shopping list, make a “to do” list, pay bills and check our bank account, and generally just try to mentally prepare myself for the week ahead.
It has been years since I was really in the habit of setting aside time to focus and plan for the week in front of me. In some ways, I guess I need this time less since I’m not stretched quite as thin as I was when I was working 2 jobs, taking graduate level classes, and trying to be a youth minister’s wife (a 3rd job, really, although it didn’t pay anything). But maybe I do need this time just as much now as I did back then. As a stay-at-home mom, with very few external motivators on my day, I find myself struggling with time management. An intentional time of planning ahead each week might really help with that.
But, although setting aside time to plan ahead is good, the idea behind setting intentions is more about setting a tone, guiding your behavior, and focusing on the important things than on working out the logistical details of your life. If you read Shawn’s post, you’ll find that she advises weekly intentions, daily intentions, and weekend intentions. All day today, I’ve been thinking about my intention for this week — Rusty is gone, I’ll be home with the boys most all week. Although I have help around the house during the day, I’m on my own in the evenings, and the bathtime/bedtime routine usually proves to be my own personal Waterloo. When Rusty left on Saturday morning, I was in a bad mood. I was grumpy and feeling sorry for myself. And then I realized, I can choose my response to this week. I can be miserable and make my kids miserable in the process — or I can choose to make the make the best of our situation and try to have fun.
And so, my weekly intention this week is to Enjoy My Kids. That’s it — just enjoy them. Enjoy learning and discovering with them. Enjoy playing with them. Enjoy cuddling and snuggling with them. Enjoy reading to them. Enjoy talking to them. The When Dad’s Away Activity Jar made it’s reappearance yesterday, and today Stephen chose “indoor cookout.” Since it was Superbowl Sunday, I put the game on the TV, built a fire in the fireplace (yes, I finally managed to get a fire going, Rusty, you would have been proud!), and we roasted hot dogs and marshmallows over the fire for dinner.
My daily intentions will change each day, but I want to try to focus on one small goal or project each day this week to see if I can make some headway on some of the things that I have been procrastinating on lately. This afternoon, I forced myself to spend 15 minutes just tidying up in our bedroom. Although there is still a lot of work to be done, the pile of clothes at the foot of the bed is now put away! Baby steps, people, baby steps.
And finally, my weekend intention is to Celebrate! My vivacious, red-headed niece is turning five tomorrow and having her birthday party on Friday, and we will all be going and then spending the night afterwards. And then Rusty arrives home on Saturday evening. If we survive the week, and I am still sane, then clearly, we will have much to celebrate!
Setting intentions — it’s simple, it’s easy, and it gives focus and direction to your day, your week, your weekend.